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Marriage

Marriage… …doesn’t sound fun anymore. Heh. “Marriage,” the word and idea, employs a negative connotation. In today’s world, from what I’ve witnessed anyway, marriage has become something to avoid,...

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Acting “as if”

Acting “as if”…. ….is a theory that can automatically turn you into a writer, lavish entrepreneur,  or just an all around badass. Even  your favorite Xmen superhero, with powers you’ve always dreamed...

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BE YOU!

Following a date gone awry or a severed friendship, the abandoned often want to know what it was that obliterated the potential connection. From my perspective, it is unnecessary to know this...

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Restoring humanity.

I often wonder about the state of humanity these days and think we have come to terms with its demise far too easily. As a constant proponent of the belief that “perspective is everything,” I feel we...

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Never stop improving.

“Never stop Improving.” This is Lowe’s slogan and it’s a good one. Although it is about home improvement,  I think it also appeals to our human nature to improve ourselves. The commercial and slogan...

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No reason.

“It’s not your job to help them.” “It’s not your job to make them happy.” I have been hearing this a lot lately and can’t help but think “Maybe not, but what if I made it my job? Would the world be...

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A Second Act

“There are no second acts in America.” –F. Scott Fitzgerald Since I’ve left Dallas, I’ve been thinking about regret and experience and what the difference is. I imagine they can be one and the same...

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Friends ruined me….

My whole life, I’ve resolved that I would be a part of a group of friends that was convincingly, yet nauseatingly, close. Growing up, the television shows I watched painted a picture of what friends...

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Obsession with looks: a study in self destruction.

Obsession, on its own, is a destructive feeling. Obsession with something naturally unattainable yet still perceived as attainable is agonizingly maddening. Thank you, America. I’ve spent years…YEARS...

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Shine bright like a diamond, but don’t let anyone know.

Humans. We’re multifaceted. And I don’t mean, as a society that we are varied. I’m specifically talking about each individual human. Some, observably more than others. Those less diverse in...

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What’s in a word?

What’s in a word? From my perspective, a lot. I hear a lot of various exclamations throughout the day, face to face, on social media, and throughout my life. That being said, a lot of these sayings,...

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Identity

Identity. It encompasses our entire being. We question it daily and we question what others perceive it to be. Who we were as a child may or may not be who we are now. Are we that same person we...

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I am…my name?

  What’s in a name anyway if not for one’s whole identify? I’m 32 and have been building an identity my whole life. Why would I get rid of the name that is associated with that identity? So I’m married...

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Being Mindful.

So I’ve been meditating every morning for a week and I have to say that it has had a very positive effect. I think part of it was because I was already in a relaxed place to begin with. A place I...

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I saw the sign….

Symbols have always been incredibly important to me. I think it’s my main draw to most jewelry and many things I have kept over the years. Going through all of my things that we saved from Hurricane...

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What doesn’t kill you….proves your resilience.

Life is complicated. And it only gets more and more complicated as we navigate and discover more ideas and experiences. I’ve had many exchanges with people lately and seen multiple memes about how...

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What not to expect.

As I enter this phase of life where I will become a mom/parent, there are so many things that people do that I simply, will not. I want to preface this entire blog by saying: Please don’t be offended...

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Identity Epiphany

I have been trying to define myself all my life. There is one way that I want people to see me and it includes multiple facets, yet I fail at this all the time when leaving behind what I feel is my...

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Proud: a long but necessary reflection.

I’m very particular with the documented meaning of words and I have high expectations of myself to describe things- mostly feelings and beliefs accurately. I have a very controlling relationship with...

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Balance > Busyness

America is SO good at making people feel bad about relaxing. I have not traveled much but the few places I’ve been (namely Oaxaca, Mexico and Puerto Rico – yeah, yeah, I realize this is a territory of...

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